Lets give 'em something to talk about!
What does it mean when we say "I love you"? Is it to meet our own needs? Is it for pity of the other person? Do we say it as though we believe that love comes from God, and so we should show it to others? Can we determine love by our words, our actions; can we determine it by how much money we make? Society talks about love quite a bit. I had never noticed all the different ways people talk about love and what it means to them until I started writing this paper. What does the Bible say is love? "Love is patient, love is kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. I have been spending a lot of time with believers in Christ, and the love that we talk about is the real love that is never failing and never ending. Spending a lot of time in the word of God, we also pray for each other and encourage each other. Often, we praise God for His love and faithfulness! He is the only real love. When we talk about love, we talk about Him. Is love yelling at and arguing with another person? Abuse never comes in love, only in anger. Proverbs 10:12 says, "Hate stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs." Is love screaming and making people feel inadequate? Some people may say that you hurt the ones you love the most, but should it be a purposeful abuse? I don't think so. Or is love possibly buying things for other people? Are people convinced that to love is to buy things for, and provide for? My roommate and I were talking about it the other night. Her parents have never supported her emotionally, and she has never felt their love in that way. She made excuses for them, almost convincing herself that by them providing shelter, food and clothes for her, they were showing love. Is that love, or simply obligation to responsibility? Is love serving someone? Is serving just something someone feels obligated to do? I have spent so much time in the ministry field serving people. I have to admit, there were time that the love that should be had while serving, often becomes obligation. Serving customers is mandatory. Does that mean that outside of the work place it could seem like an obligation to help someone? Thinking, " Sorry, I'm off the clock buddy. I'm not helping you."I know that this has nothing to do with the speaking of love, but if people talk about love, do people also show the love that they are talking about? How? Do they drag people around abusing them? Do they buy things for others? People talk about how serving is their civil duty. Do they talk about the love that is supposed to be shown behind it? I know I have. Serving with a good attitude is important. Some talk of love as sexual. Making love, falling in love, etc. Love is meeting the right person, sharing an intimate connection with them, feeling the flutters when they walk into the room, the joy that shows on a person's face. I don't believe that love has to do with the act of sex, or anything to do with physical contact or emotion. Love is a decision. How many different kinds of so- called love can one talk about? Some think that love is insecurity. I love you is only said so it is also reciprocated. Many people claim love to fulfill their own emotional and physical needs. The words "I love you" sometimes are not accepted, but rather thrown away as an abused and overused verb in which one expresses their fake, shallow care for another human being. Humans feel the need to be loved, and to talk about love. It is built inside of us. What matters is how we show it, and what we do with it. I believe that the only true love must come from God. When we talk about love, we can be talking about so many things other than love. Some may love for pity, some may love for truth, some may love for lust, but we all talk about it, and we all need it.